My Journey to Resolving My Grief
...And how I can help you too!My Healing Journey
My third child, twin boy fondly known as MoraC passed away suddenly at 7 months, two days before Christmas in 2018. I was totally devastated.
I was in a dark place and thought I would never come out. However, I knew I had to find a way to rise above this tragedy especially if I wanted to continue to coach and mentor my clients. So I embarked on a journey of recovery: some helpful, some not helpful.
I firstly set out on a spiritual journey where I spent more time with God on a deeper level to understand this journey I was on. On the other hand, I knew I also needed to heal emotionally.
This led me to seek professional help for my grief to complete with my unresolved grief and see beyond my pain of losing my baby and other losses I had experienced over the years.
It found the tools to do some heart work, let go of my pain, grief well and find new meaning of life. I truly haven’t felt this alive since MoraC went to heaven.
I now have 2 qualifications as a Grief & Loss Specialist where I now teach people the action steps to take in order to heal and move beyond death, divorce and any other major emotional loss.
There is Life After A HeartBreak
Sadly our society does not teach us how to cope with our grief. We are merely expected to “get over it” in time. Therapy encourages us to talk about the heartbreak but does not actually deal with recovering from the emotional turmoil.
I am glad I found a path that has helped me heal from my broken heart when MoraC passed and I want to show you this path.
My desire is to help others- men and women who have experienced emotional loss discover the tools I used so that they can move forward with their lives with new meaning.
No matter what the loss is: death, divorce, sexual or emotional abuse, loss of trust, loss of job etc, I would love to walk you on a journey. You can move forward after loss. There is life after a heartbreak.
One on One Help
Your heart is broken and you know you need help but you’re not sure what to do next. The good news is that I can help you each step of the way. Your feelings are the normal and natural reaction to loss.
As an Grief & Loss Specialist, you can work with me One on One Online or In Person.
I will take you through the 8 week step by step program on how to complete the actions necessary to resolve your grief. It is not a support chat nor is it counselling or therapy.
It is a powerful, dynamic, sensible and accessible programme that is genuinely for anyone willing to take the necessary actions to help themselves.
The programme is action based with weekly heart work assignments using the Grief Recovery Handbook as the reference book.
To find out if this is for you, book a complimentary consultation call with me now.
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Testimonial 1
“Prior to working with Detola, I didn’t necessarily think I was “grieving” though I knew I was in a complicated state of mind that needed some type of help.
In the past, I found counselling to not necessarily address my deepest struggles or be helpful in the long run. I knew I needed to do ‘some work’ to progress effectively in life.
There were many takeaways and aha moments during the program. I got to spend quality time alone to think through my pain and confront difficult feelings.
Some of my habits were put in proper perspective. Hidden hurts around my dad’s death that I was not even thinking about resurfaced.
Overall, I feel a strong sense of peace knowing that I have confronted major aspects of my pain. That I have been intentional and have put in the HARD WORK and investment in my healing process.
Detola was VERY patient and non-judgmental. I felt AT HOME sharing my deepest pain. When the journey became hard & I wanted to bail, she stood LOVING but firm to ensure I finished. This set me on a great foundation as my healing progresses.”
Josephine P
Testimonial 2
Coach Detola’s approach have helped me understand grief and work through historical loss in a constructive way that has transformed my life.
This approach has given me practical tools to help me move beyond historical trauma and loss in a safe environment where I had struggled for many years to do so. I now have lifelong tools that will enable me to work through cycles of grief in a safe way.
Detola is a consummate professional who walked me step by step through this process. I’ve experienced such transformation and have a countered completion through this amazing programme.
Thank you Detola. My life and that of my family has been transformed.”
Lashelle M
Testimonial 3
“I had four recurrent miscarriages in 2013/2014 and even though I’d had a couple of NHS counselling sessions at the time the thoughts were still going round and round in my head today. I was also angry that family and society had forgotten about my babies and I didn’t know who to talk to and how to process my feelings.
I was put in touch with Grief Specialist Detola Amure who had experienced child loss as I needed to talk to someone who understood similar feelings around this.
I’ve completed the program and it has been nothing short of amazing. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Detola has been so kind and compassionate and helped me to recover all memories of my baby loss grief.
She listened with empathy and took me through the steps to complete my grief. I even talked about other areas of my life/relationships that were unresolved and I got to complete those too.
Even though my time with Detola is now over she has given me the steps to carry on with the program on my own with Confidence. I also know that I can book a session with her at any point as well.
I wholeheartedly recommend this program to anyone with unresolved grief and I graciously thank Detola from the bottom of my heart for listening and helping me. I now feel heard and complete.”
Joanne M
Testimonial 4
“I enrolled for Grief therapy to see what it would be like to go through therapy. I have had quite a few losses in my life and thought why not? I had no idea how life changing it would be.
Detola gently guided me to areas of my life I had always been afraid to explore. The areas where real loss had taken place. It was both terrifying and liberating but Detola held my hand through it all. She was always patient and very kind. I felt safe. Our sessions created a space where I could be “naked” and not ashamed.
Our sessions are over now and I do feel lighter. I am carrying less emotional baggage which is great! I have reached a place of acceptance and I am so ready to forward. I would highly highly recommend working with Detola.”
Ogugua
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